Why do some people feels guilty after having a premarital sex?
And why do some people don’t?
Those who experience a “slight discomfort” are experiencing a cognitive dissonance.
And what is that “cognitive dissonance” anyway?
Is KC trying to sound like some newly minted psychologist with this term?
If you look it up in Wikipedia, it goes like this…”Cognitive dissonance is an uncomfortable feeling caused by holding two contradictory ideas simultaneously”
The first idea is ‘It is wrong to have premarital sex’.
And the second idea is ‘Sex feels great, especially premarital sex’
Therefore a person who holds these two contradicting ideas will feel uncomfortable with his or herself most of the time.
So what is the solution ?
The solution is to develop one’s own moral code.
9 Comments
October 23, 2009 at 3:57 am
Hey hey hey KC!
(commenting on prev post on law of attraction)
It’s been a while. Hey, didn’t I tell you that we always think alike?
Anyway, I am reading The Secret book for the 11th time and I haven’t have enough of it. Why? Because the law of attraction.
I so want to attend the workshop but well it’s tomorrow
Hugs.
November 10, 2009 at 3:59 pm
Yan,
Ya it has been a long while indeed for me
Btw, great minds think alike you know
October 29, 2009 at 10:58 am
Don’t get lost!
Or/Atau
Jangan sesat!
November 10, 2009 at 4:05 pm
Saya rela jadi seekor kambing lone ranger dari jadi gerombolan kambing yang sesat.
Terima kasih Tuan.
Jangan tangkap saya berkhalwat (doing self-introspection or self-reflection,not close proximity)
January 15, 2010 at 5:47 am
What happens if your moral compass needle is broken? Hehe.
I think most ppl just follow status quo and then come up with more and more justification for their actions.
January 15, 2010 at 6:48 am
Thanks for visiting and for your comments TS Lim.
January 26, 2010 at 10:27 am
which is wrong in the first place.. in the end we will feel like it is nothing wrong with it.. eg: lets say i go free hair once in a while, after quite some time, id do it more often as i see no harm in doing it. in the end, i might be going free hair cos i am used to it. got it??
January 26, 2010 at 12:15 pm
I got what you’re trying to say there. Let’s take a look….it is “wrong’ according to YOUR moral code.
In my world, there are only different choices.
Let’s take tudung for example…if one choose to don it, that’s her choice, if one choose not to don it, that’s her choice as well.
The same goes with sex, namely pre-marital sex. If one choose to abstain from or indulge in it, it is also one’s choice.
But of course, the power to choose comes with the responsibility to face the consequences.
January 28, 2010 at 3:53 am
ur thinking (or is it just a neutral point of view) is exactly the trend nowadays with our, not exactly teens but community in general??
everyone has become more daring in the sense of upholding their own moral code or sense instead of what is actually right or wrong. i dont mean to judge yeah.
when i say this, i saw things as an outsider (i mean, duh, i am no where near perfect!), someone unbiased, more like theoretical point of view? or sense, or someone might judge this perception as a name? i mean everything is categorised in names and field nowadays, liberals, conservative, etc. there’s simply no neutral category anymore.
i mean, id thought myself as neutral, but someone else would say im conservative, or being judgemental or what so ever. there’s simple names for everything!